Like all parents, I have my struggles with my kids. Whether it be bedtimes, tantrums, whatever. I have read all the love and logic books, I have tried different methods, I have listened to suggestions, but ultimately I do what is best for my family, despite what others may think or feel. But, I thought I would share some of my solutions, because most often they are built out of a collaboration of advice from others.
Currently, our issue is bedtime. When the kids were young, we used to just all cuddle up in my bed, read some books and fall asleep. Well, they are getting older now, and bigger, and my husband and I want our bed back. Not only that, but my son will be going to school more and it was just time for a set routine. But I knew that my daughter was going to throw a fit. She can't seem to fall asleep at night without me....actually holding onto my finger while she falls asleep.
I finally just bit the bullet and did it. I put the kiddo's in bed MUCH earlier than usual, turned on their turtle stars, and got out my phone to read a book while I held my daughter's hand. Some days it takes a minute, some days it takes an hour. But I scooted a little further yesterday. Today I will scoot further away and so and so. And it is working. Some have called me crazy for not just letting her cry it out. But I just can't. I can't do it.
The first day I closed the door and walked to the living room, I felt absolutely lost. When I crawled into bed, I felt lonely. It sucked. But slowly, I started enjoying this time. It has become MY time. Sometimes I don't even want my husband around during this time. I want silence. I don't want anyone touching me or talking to me or simply being around me.
I am sure there are quicker ways to get this done. I am sure that a night or two of crying it out would have worked. But it wouldn't have worked for me. So, from one parent to another, do what is right for YOU and for YOUR family. Just a reminder to listen to your heart!
